I don't know about it being rude, there's been tons of times for me when "calm down" has been fairly legitimate advice. There are many emotional states that aren't really conducive to reasoning and actions taken in those states can be regretable. Y'know, stuff like "calm down before you call your ex/quit your job/punch that person who insists on having a loud conversation on his or her cell phone right next to you in the computer lab, even though there is a 'no cell phones' sign right there."
I mean, I can see the merit in avoiding it in this community, but I don't think the phrase itself should be condemned.
I think you misunderstand what I was getting at. The phrase in question isn't, "I think you should try to calm down," or "Please try to calm down, and..." it's, "Calm down." No qualifiers tacked on. That's an order, telling the person to change their emotional state. That's radically different from simply making it part of a larger piece of advice.
And as I said, there might be situations where it's necessary... most involve being an authority trying to reign in an individual that needs to be cowed (SP). But it's never a terribly POLITE thing to do.
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I mean, I can see the merit in avoiding it in this community, but I don't think the phrase itself should be condemned.
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And as I said, there might be situations where it's necessary... most involve being an authority trying to reign in an individual that needs to be cowed (SP). But it's never a terribly POLITE thing to do.
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