Yeah but that's not what women mean when we say "I hate men". Like, ever.
It's a metonym. When someone says, "I hate men", they're not saying "I individually despise every single man on the planet". They're using a shorthand. They might be saying that they hate men who disregard and belittle and discomfort and hurt and abuse women (and so on). They might be saying that they hate the society and institutions and power structures that privilege men over women. But it's a mouthful to say that, and when you're angry and hurt and exhausted with the enormity of all the sexist bullshit in the world, it's easier to boil it down to "I hate men".
And when a man inserts himself into that conversation to say, "Whoa, hold on just a minute, you can't be saying you hate [i]every man in the world[/i], NOT ALL MEN are that bad" -- he's derailing the discussion. He's making it about himself and his feelings (but you don't hate me, do you? you know I'm not like that?) and taking the focus away from the woman's experiences.
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It's a metonym. When someone says, "I hate men", they're not saying "I individually despise every single man on the planet". They're using a shorthand. They might be saying that they hate men who disregard and belittle and discomfort and hurt and abuse women (and so on). They might be saying that they hate the society and institutions and power structures that privilege men over women. But it's a mouthful to say that, and when you're angry and hurt and exhausted with the enormity of all the sexist bullshit in the world, it's easier to boil it down to "I hate men".
And when a man inserts himself into that conversation to say, "Whoa, hold on just a minute, you can't be saying you hate [i]every man in the world[/i], NOT ALL MEN are that bad" -- he's derailing the discussion. He's making it about himself and his feelings (but you don't hate me, do you? you know I'm not like that?) and taking the focus away from the woman's experiences.