I'd frown upon both (maybe not equally, but still) but wish them well, and that they may get better. Hate is foolish and cruelty will only beget cruelty, where kindness can go a long way in helping all parties.

"Don't kill if you can wound, don't wound if you can subdue, don't subdue if you can pacify, and don't raise your hand at all until you've first extended it."